I’m watching X-Weighted right now, and it’s brought some questions up in my mind about self-confidence and self-esteem.

The self-esteem coach on the show told Naomi that her big “problem” is with her self-confidence. She has clothes that fit her body and she’s a gorgeous woman, but she’s very uncomfortable with herself and it’s hurting her.

This comes back to me, in my head. Obviously Matt finds me attractive, or else he wouldn’t have married me. I have friends that hear me bitch about my appearance or my size and tell me that I’m pretty and that I don’t look like I’m huge and disgusting. But huge and disgusting is how I see myself sometimes.

How does one change this? If there’s nothing left to do on the outside to bring yourself out, then how do you bring out a more confident person from what obviously isn’t self-confidence? Does this self-esteem just materialize? What can a person do so that they start to love the person that they are?